19 year old step son drawing monster pictures of me!!! What do I do??
Hello All, My name is Tineasa. I am a 29 year old mom of a 7 year old girl named Kimimela. In 2003 I met my husband. we did not get married until this year on May 26th,2013. I knew he had another child then but the child's mother kepted the child away from his father. She would tell her son hurtful things about his dad to the point the child believed them and didnt want to talk to his father. Well a few years ago I got in contact with the child and told him that his dad would love for him to call and talk things out since he was older and could understand things!! Well they began to talk on the phone again.
Well this past year my husband's father had gotten sick and lost his leg to diabetes. My husbands son was also living with the grandfather when he has gotten sick and lost his leg. When we found out in Feb. what was going on we made the 5 hour trip to Pa from NY State to see my husbands father and also to see the son as well. Awhile we were there the son decided that he wanted to leave PA and move to NY State with us. We called PA State police and they told us as long as he was 18 he could come and do what ever he may like, and the mother of the child could not stop him. So we went and packed the son's stuff up and moved him in with us. we got him transfered to the school with us. A month later the father in law moved in with us as he had nowhere to go and need someone to take care of him!
Its been about 9 months since the child has moved into our home and we have had a few problems. His mother and grandmother(mother's Mom) is telling the child that he does not have to listen to me as I am nothing to him and I can't do anything to him. It was just recent that I found a picture of a drawing. The drawing had some monster looking creature drawn with the say at the top "Tineasa, The monster from Hell"!! I had told my husband about it and he said something to his son and asked him why he would do this? HE then told his dad that his mom has been calling alot and told him that is he showed me any kind of LOVE or even so much called me mom that she would stop talk to him. She also told him that she would tell his whole family to stop talking to him as well and tell his family alot of crap. So in order to hate me she told him to think of bad things and to think of me when thinking the bad things!!
My question is this: Do I say something to the mother about what she is doing to him? What do I say and what would be the best way to contact her? Facebook e-mail or a phone call?? I was think facebook e-mail this way she cant said i said anything wrong, and with a phone call it could be hear say... Please any feed back would be great as I am lost for words and not sure where to turn at this moment in life. I don't want the child's mother to stop talk to him but I also don't want the mother to keep filling his head full of crap and lies.
Thanks for reading!!