16 year old SS I don't care/Sarcastic/Whatever/Ungreatful/Disrespectful "TUDE".HELP
Back story: SS and SD came to live with us due to mom messing up. They have been with us little over a year. Things were fine at first and then it seemed SS started turning mean with age. He expected things then got a job and uses that as an excuse for everything of not having to do chores and he piles of things on his plate and then doesn't do them till the last minute. He is 16 now and feels he is owed the world for he doesn't have to do anything to earn it.
He has been being disrespectful lately, telling his dad to shut it, telling me that everything in his world is how it should be and thats how he wants it.
Don't know whats going on with him. So do we proposition him by seeing what is wrong with him and if nothing then possibly give him the option to go back and live with his mom if he wants to continue being disrespectful, or do we not give him that option? I hear giving ultimatums are bad, but do we continue to listen to his disrespect. He has made it clear that since his mom and dad are not together, that basically he is apart of no family. He distances himself from us (father and SM) and I dont think its just us. His sister says he does it at his moms with her bf. He feels he dont us explanations or anything. Is this a 16 yr. old boy thing?? He has went to counseling before and they released him cause he would not talk. We know he has a lot of supressed emotions..No way to get him to vent, have tried all angles! Anyone?