I am in need of some opinions. I pick up my SD from school 1x a week and every 1st,3rd, and 5th weekend. We have an hour drive. I try to make simple conversation about her day or week etc because we have a good relationship and it is just akward riding in silence.
Yesterday ( i assume this is where it came from) I asked her what she had been up to and she mentioned her and her mom found a house to buy. I was simply making small talk and she was telling me about it etc.
Then this morning my DH got an email saying that if we had anything negative to say or want to know about her personal life to ask her and not SD cause it puts SD in the middle.
Did I do something wrong by making small talk. I try to listen and have a relationship, but I am getting tired of a 12 yr old going back and twisting my words.
I have been around for 11 years of this. Should I say something to SD and ask if she was offended by anything so I don't say it again? Or should DH say something? Or should I just let it go again?
I don't want the drama so if I said something wrong I would like to know so I can prevent it next time.
What are your opinions?