I have been with my husband for many years. I was excited to be a part of his daughters life, she was in 4th grade when we met. Today she is a sophomore in high school and definitely not the same child she was before. Her birth mother is a very manipulative person and would do anything to make her self look like the better parent. During my step daughters 8th grade school year, she attempted suicide by cutting herself. My husband was kept away from this information, we only found out during recent court appearances. At the beginning of her 9th grade year, her mom basically abandoned her. She came to our house with so many medications, it was quite scary. Eventually, she told us that she didn't need to take any of this medication since she was not living with her mom. My husband never refilled any of her prescriptions, but she was told to tell us if she needed them. Besides the typical teenage issues, she appeared to be doing fine. Getting awesome grades in school and she just seemed happy. Her mom came back this past July, but my husband was granted custody with mom getting every other weekend visitation. Since mom has been back, I have noticed that my step daughter is not the same. Moodier and just defiant. I have asked her if everything is okay, and she says she is fine. Recently, I was looking for a website to make a professional portfolio and she told me to use tumblr. I opened an account and thought immediately this was not going to work, I looked up step daughters and was shocked, appalled and disgusted by what I saw. Everything was about suicide, self harming and eating disorders. I showed my husband and last night he asked her about it and she denied it was hers. For obvious reasons, we know it is hers.
It is obviously apparent she needs help. I have been putting things together in my mind and should have seen the signs, but as a step parent I have learned to stay out of the issues. My husband and I are at a loss on how to exactly help her. She saw a counselor for awhile before she came to live with us, but she says she does not remember who it was. How can we approach this issue with her and let her know we want to help her.