My husband and I have been married for nearly 3 years. We both came out of 20 year marriages in which we both had children, I have 2, 20 yo & 14 yo. He has 3 children, 22yo, 20 yo and 18 yo. All but the 22 year old has lived with us. My oldest loves his step-dad and my youngest has made efforts to adapt to her new family. However, my 2 stepchildren have never accepted me. They have done horrible things to me and my kids, including loosing the lug-nuts on my sons car endangering him. They have threatened to put bleach in my shampoo, they have stolen my sim card from my phone, they have turned tables over on me and called me every name in the book.
It has caused a lot of stress for me and my husbands relationship. I love my husband and I am trying to see the light at the end of the tunnel. They are all grown and I know they won't be with us much longer but I need advice from people who have dealt with this. My husband just wants to keep the peace. I would like peace too but I want real Peace not just pseudo-peace. My home is not a refuge, it's a an uncomfortable place to be in. I hide in my bedroom alot and avoid the kids. It's awful!