I live with my 62 year old boyfriend, he has 2 boys, 12,and 13 yrs old. He gets them 1 day a week for about 4 to 6 hrs [ Do to his work]. We live in a 2 bdrm apt. on third floor., they fight most of the time and are really loud at times. I know that we should be Grandpraents at this point in our lives but stuff happens! It's a small space but not bad for 2 older adults [I am 60]. The thing that is bugging my is he wants the second bdrm. just for his boys and only for the boys[ the boys rm. can not be used by me at all, I can go in there]. He plans on getting them more often but he is an heavy drinker and they don't like, let me put that this way. The 2 boys wait for him to drink and take a nap in his chair, then they can have the run of the apt. and they make fun of him and steal money out of his change jar. It's not a good thing but my concern is that not letting have room for my sewing and quests that spend the night, he won't even let anyone in the room[on the sofa for them]! What is too much to take and how can I get him to see how hurtful that is to me? I have to do all the cleaning when they come over and drive them home which is about 50 miles one way . The mother will not transport them over or home! What should I do? Help please...Thanks to all the step moms out there. I do help with the bills but my income is limited, I am on disablity and he pays all the rent.