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Visitation - No Homework

Posted by on Nov. 10, 2013 at 7:15 PM
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CP lives 2 hours away from NCP. CO states visitation is at CPs discretion. CP takes responsibility for transportation to and from visitation. NCP refuses to make time for kids to do homework. Due to schedule and distance, kids leave for NCPs right after school on Friday and get home right at bedtime Sunday.

CP has told NCP that the next time homework isn't done, schedule is changing- kids will be dropped off Saturday morning or picked up Saturday night, NCPs choice. NCP cried foul.

What say you?
by on Nov. 10, 2013 at 7:15 PM
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Leigh84
by Gold Member on Nov. 10, 2013 at 7:23 PM
If NCP won't make sure hw gets done then kids can start visitation w/NCP Friday afternoon after hw is done or visitation could start Saturday morning. Or kids could even go back to cp earlier on Sunday, either way hw needs to be done
PumpkinSpice8
by Silver Member on Nov. 10, 2013 at 7:24 PM
Depending on the type of homework, they could do it on the 2 hour car ride to the NCP's house. Otherwise, drop them off Saturday morning after it's done.
progressandjoy
by Silver Member on Nov. 10, 2013 at 7:27 PM
I don't think CP should take away visitation because NCP won't do homework.

Does it suck that NCP won't do homework? Yeah, but in the scheme of things there is a lot worse the NCP could do. Let the kids enjoy the time with their parent. Maybe pick them up an hour or two early, but not a full day early.
sara82lee
by Bronze Member on Nov. 10, 2013 at 7:44 PM
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Sorry, but making sure kids do their hw is part of parenting. If the ncp isn't going take their part of the responsibility for that to happen, then that parent forfeits the time it takes the cp to make sure they do it.

Maybe after a couple times of bringing the kids on Saturday morning to show that the cp is serious about it, the ncp can be given another chance to show they're willing to do that part of being a parent.
Birdseed
by Platinum Member on Nov. 10, 2013 at 7:45 PM

If NCP won't allow time for homework, something needs to change.

Homework is part of the kids' lives and if NCP doesn't want to be a part of THAT part of a kid's life so be it but time needs to be alloted so that the kid isn't in trouble at school.  School should be the child's priority. 


HopesNDreams
by Silver Member on Nov. 10, 2013 at 7:50 PM
I have a DS who gets A's and B's on test, but has C's and D's in classes because homework isn't getting done. Homework is a big deal in some classes and it can have a huge impact on grades. BM's stance also sets a horrible example for the kids about respect for school and their teachers.

Visitation can change to either later on Friday when homework is completed or Saturday morning, whichever is more convenient for dad. BM had her chance to handle this part of parenting and has chosen not to. Now, it has to be handled for her during her time.


Quoting progressandjoy:

I don't think CP should take away visitation because NCP won't do homework.



Does it suck that NCP won't do homework? Yeah, but in the scheme of things there is a lot worse the NCP could do. Let the kids enjoy the time with their parent. Maybe pick them up an hour or two early, but not a full day early.
Rudymiss
by on Nov. 10, 2013 at 7:52 PM

     If the Step child comes over for that amount of time on the weekends, then they shpuld do their homework where ever they are for the weekend!   I am not sure if your BM or the weekend SM, sorry !   But school is scholl and the homework has to get done.   If the child is not doing their homework if they have some for the weelend, the child is being taught to be a sluff-off. If the parent that has the child for weekend doesn't have them do their homework, then I might think that parent feels guily about something and doesn't want to take the time or wants the child to have fun when his is there, so they will want to keep coming back.  Whatever the reason is, the child needs to do the homework!!!!

hissminenours
by Member on Nov. 10, 2013 at 7:56 PM
Sounds fair to me. As a custodial bm, a non-custodial bm & a sm.
UThinkUKnowMe
by on Nov. 10, 2013 at 8:07 PM
Thank you for your replies.

Kids going later on Friday is not an option, due to travel time of CP. CP drives 4 hours round trip on Fridays.

Kids doing HW in the car not a option, due to one getting migraines when reading in the car.
Frustrated10
by Bronze Member on Nov. 10, 2013 at 8:17 PM

Yet another example of why children shouldn't have children. If the child had adults as parents, this wouldn't be an issue.

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