Question: Would you consider me a Stepmom?
Total Votes: 105
I am 28 years old and married to a man that had a child at a young age with a previous girlfriend. The "mother" of his child has not seen, talked or even cared for her own child in over a year. I have been part of Landen's life since he was 3 years old and have helped raised him fulltime eversince. I still get labeled by him "stepmom" eventhough his father has supported me in trying to explain to him that eventhough I didnt give birth to him that I am more of a mother to him than his birth mother has ever or will be or lack of therefor. I have never pressured him to call me mom but lately his words have really hurt. Leaving me crying at night. He refuses to let me claim him as my son. He says I am not your son and now it is step everyone in my family. My sister's kids "stepcousins". I want so bad to argue back that "Im sorry, your right Im not your mom eventhough your mom doesnt seem to care about you and I have been picking up the slack for the last 3 almost 4 years". I would never say such a thing to him. Nothing makes me more upset when he puts her up on a pedistol and can be so cold to me. My husband is so supportive and does his best to help make it better for me. He says in time it will get better and he will realize. No one has told him that his mother has left for good, so the child is so confused. I have never felt so distant from Landen and I hate it. I love him to death but lately with the things he has been saying has made me want to put some distance between us. I dont feel so "step"mom when I do it all. Any advice?