A conversations in another post got me thinking.
One poster asked something along the lines of: "Doesn't BM care what SM thinks about her parenting and lack of discipline?"
Something like that...
Got me thinking. I am a SM and have two kids with my DH. I'm not a perfect mother by any stretch but I'm doing my best and I've never really worried about what BM thinks of my parenting. I've also never really spent much time thinking about or caring about how BM chooses to parent SD.
There are similarities between our houses but there are differences more often than not.
The only time I've really given it any space was times when BM's actions were clearly hurting SD but, even then, there was nothing we (DH or I) could do to change BM so we've just always focused inside our own house and provided the most loving stable environment we could for the three children that live here.
So.... as a SM do you judge BM on what you see as her parenting fails and shortcomings? Do you feel judged by BMs when it comes to parenting your own biokids (not skids... that's a whole 'nother ball game)?
BMs do you judge or critique SM on her parenting skills with her own children? Do you feel like she is judging you?
And if you do feel judged by the other house how do you react to that? Do you care? Do you just ignore it and go about your day?