I keep seeing posts over and over again about being just "step mom". What is wrong with being step mom? I'm not sure I get it.
Hell, I'm not even stepmom. I only use that term here. I always say Dad's girlfriend. Do I love my SD?? Sure do. Can't imagine my life with out her. Have I had my struggles with learning my place with a child that isn't biologically mine.. Bet your ass.
It's been tough for my control freak, all in personality. I can't disengage and even when I inquired here as to what it took I knew it wasn't for me.
Do I think of myself as a babysitter, no way. I give all to my SD. But I also do not consider my self Mom.
Do I think her Mom is a good Mom.. Not even close. But I'm still not Mom.
I love SD. I think she enhances my life. I like to think I enhance hers and make it better. I'm good with that.
I think being step mom is just as rewarding as being Mom.
I just didn't have to go Uuuuugggggghhhhhhh.( imagine a 7 year old blonde girl bent double holding her stomach.. That's her idea of how she came out of her mom) to get her..
We have our special bond that is uniquely ours. No one can take it or change it. We worked hard on it.
Those are my rambling thoughts on it. :0)