How does everybody handle gifts between older stepkids? We've been married 2.5 years, he has 3 kids I have 2. Past Christmases everybody has gotten everybody else a gift. Of course we have bought the gifts for the 2 still at home, to give the other siblings. My son lives 8 hours away and doesn't know DH's kids that well, nor they him. None of them needs to be spending their money on each other just because that is what you are supposed to do. They are all scraping by with one having student loans, one has babies, one a minimum wage job, and one in college and one at home. It ends up being gift card exchanges between them all really. I had to cash out one for my son because he didn't have those restaurants where he lives even.
We could all agree they won't be buying each other gifts, but I know my son would still want to get his little sister a gift and maybe DH's kids would want to exchange with each other. I thought about asking DH whether it would be good to tell his kids to exchange with each other at BM's if they want too, but not worry about buying my kids gifts this year. Does that sound reasonable?