Good morning. I've been a member here for quite some time, but previously deleted my Old screen name. This forum can get very addicting :)
anyway, some of you might remember my background. I'm sure most wont. I have 2 bios and 4 steps. We have my kids 100% of the time, SS15 full time except every other weekend, and SDs close to half the time. SS came to live with us after his mom knocked him to the ground, broke his thumb, and bit him. SO almost went for custody of all the them at the time, but thought it would do more harm than good to take the girls from their mother. I disagreed, but supported his decision.
Skids SF is verbally abusive (according to skids) to BM. The kids all hate him except SD8. Yesterday SD13 was home sick from school. According to SD, her mom asked her to watch their 2 week old brother while she dropped SD11 off at school. This is literally a 3 minute drive. SD13 ends up falling asleep, baby wakes up screaming but SD never wakes up from it. SF ends up coming running down the stairs screaming at SD because the baby woke HIM up! He continues to scream at SD (with the baby in his arms) as she walks up the stairs to her room and tells her she's useless. BM didn't come back til 2 hours later, so Im assuming she thought it was ok to leave her sick 13 year old home for that long to take care of a newborn while his father slept upstairs. The kids are all terrified to wake SF...he works nights and has "flipped out" on them multiple times for waking him up. I'm not sure if she told BM what happened.
Needless to say, SO is regretting his decision to not call cps when everything happened with stepson. Being that I don't want to say "I told you so" to him, what other advice do you ladies have? Is this even grounds for a custody change? He wants his kids away from SF before he starts verbally abusing them too. He doesn't want SFs mean words to affect the kind of women his daughters turn in to. But I don't know if these things can even be proved...what can my SO do?and what can I do to support him?