My name is Stacey. I am a mother of 1 beautiful 9yr old girl and a stepmom to 1 awesome 9yr boy. Id like to start by saying I was wrong when I said that being a mom is the hardest job ever. If I knew then what I know now, I would have waited and said that being a stepparent is even harder!!!
A little background...I work outside the home as a full time Registered Nurse. My husband and I have been married for 4 1/2 years. My ex and I get along very well and share responsibility for our daughter. He is remarried as well and I couldnt have hand picked a better step mom for my daughter. We of course have a court ordered vistation schedule but dont follow it since we make the decisions based on whats best for Nataie. We are even planning on both families going to Disney World next summer!
As for my husbands ex...Completely different story. When we were dating, she and I got along well. She even wanted my daughter and her daughter (different dad) to take dance lessons together. Once my husband proposed everything changed. She no longer let her daughter come over with my stepson on visits (My husband raised her from 4months old to 6yrs old). We won many court battles for visitation rights for Hailey based on significant bond....Didnt matter much because Hailie would scream and cry when she was dropped off here (who knows what her mom was feeding her head with). We decided to no longer force Hailie to come here since it put so much stress on her. She no longer calls my husbad dad :-(
To date we have spent several thousands of dollars fighting her in court for everything from her requesting more child support (she quit work to go to school...must be nice I worked full time and went to school) to her fighting for full custody (she of course lost!) It seems we end up in court at least once a year for some stupid issue she has...Why does the court allow this!!!!?
My relationship with my stepson is good. It used to be great when he was younger. Now it seems as if he has developed the "your not my mom" attitude. (Im sure she has helped him with that). My relationship with my husband is great yet strained when it comes to his ex. We fight constantly since I feel he gives in to her too much. Every time she asks for a schedule change he complies yet if we would like a change she NEVER agrees!!! I look at my husband as weak when that happens and I HATE THAT!!! I hate seeing him as her doormat.
Anyway, Thanks for reading. I am glad to have found this site and hope I find the support and understanding I so desperately need.