I feel your pain almost to an exact. For Thanksgiving I prepared a feast. I was working so hard . I didn't even get a hello from 4 of his children. 6 were there. But, two are only 10, the otheres are grown with own children. Nor did they say hi they didn't say good bye to me either. Or even a Thank you for the dinner. It bothers me so much inside. My husband said the prayer and thanked everyone pretty much except me. Now, I guess I know where they get it from. They take me for granted. It;s very hard for me not to take it out on my husband. If I say anything ever, he protects them and I'm the crazy one. I will never cook for his side ever again. Out of 25 people. Maybe 3 said Thank you.
Quoting kids4ever:I feel your pain almost to an exact. For Thanksgiving I prepared a feast. I was working so hard . I didn't even get a hello from 4 of his children. 6 were there. But, two are only 10, the otheres are grown with own children. Nor did they say hi they didn't say good bye to me either. Or even a Thank you for the dinner. It bothers me so much inside. My husband said the prayer and thanked everyone pretty much except me. Now, I guess I know where they get it from. They take me for granted. It;s very hard for me not to take it out on my husband. If I say anything ever, he protects them and I'm the crazy one. I will never cook for his side ever again. Out of 25 people. Maybe 3 said Thank you.
Quoting mistyann00: Tonight we decorated the tree and we asked the oldest of he wanted to help and he ignored us, and all I could think of is you want presents but you don't want to help with the tree.. it made me angry.. I don't know whether to just stop asking or keep trying and hoping the answer will be yes at some point, but I feel I may get too pissed.
Quoting kids4ever:I feel your pain almost to an exact. For Thanksgiving I prepared a feast. I was working so hard . I didn't even get a hello from 4 of his children. 6 were there. But, two are only 10, the otheres are grown with own children. Nor did they say hi they didn't say good bye to me either. Or even a Thank you for the dinner. It bothers me so much inside. My husband said the prayer and thanked everyone pretty much except me. Now, I guess I know where they get it from. They take me for granted. It;s very hard for me not to take it out on my husband. If I say anything ever, he protects them and I'm the crazy one. I will never cook for his side ever again. Out of 25 people. Maybe 3 said Thank you.
Quoting mistyann00: I would like to shed some light on another aspect of the Holidays and see what everyone's take on that as well is.
It's seems more around the Holidays the skids enjoy more of what their mom gets them rather then what their dad and I get them. Maybe it could be perceived the same way when they are at their moms. Do you think they understand down playing at that age? Ex: if they go to moms and are like dad got us this and that.. etc to make their mom feel bad and vice versa towards their dad? Or do they really feel one is better than the other? I know when they are with us, and they are with us all the time practically due to circumstances, DH has primary custody, that they don't act like they care to even get presents from us or even be around us. Just our perception.
Quoting packermom4ever:
Quoting malinda74:I was thinking the same. When I was a child I honestly didn't give this much thought. We saw it as ; woo hoo, two Christmas's. Score.
We're opposite in this house My kids used to want to split the day (like we did for the first two years) of each holiday. Dad's parents got involved and after that it was his year, my year (we lived and live five minutes apart and even phone calls weren't always allowed on that end). One year he told me he had no tree or decorations, so I offered to go half on the tree and gave him some of our ornaments - no go. And the Christmas that my (now 10) year old was six my ex dropped them off very late, said he couldn't help that SMs family party was so late (we have a court order and he wasn't answering his phone), and right before the kids came in the house she told him that Santa wasn't real - on Christmas eve, He was upset. Words were had.Before all of that we'd spend time decorating and baking and all that jazz and the magic was there. After a while of having to miss out on half the holidays with both parents my kids have very little interest in any holiday. I just had to beg them yesterday to help decorate the tree. They turned off the holiday music. They were more interested in getting done as fast as possible because they had so little interest in it. Same as me... I lost out of half the holidays for a few years - it's hard to get the festive feeling back for me, especially when I see they aren't all that interested anymore.
Quoting sandeeyo:When I saw "Holiday DREADS", I immediately thought that someone's step kid came home with dreadlocks and Christmas ornaments hanging off the ends.
That aside, I have really never liked the Christmas holiday. I can totally get behind Thanksgiving because I love to cook and, HELLO EATING!!!!!
Quoting kids4ever:I feel your pain almost to an exact. For Thanksgiving I prepared a feast. I was working so hard . I didn't even get a hello from 4 of his children. 6 were there. But, two are only 10, the otheres are grown with own children. Nor did they say hi they didn't say good bye to me either. Or even a Thank you for the dinner. It bothers me so much inside. My husband said the prayer and thanked everyone pretty much except me. Now, I guess I know where they get it from. They take me for granted. It;s very hard for me not to take it out on my husband. If I say anything ever, he protects them and I'm the crazy one. I will never cook for his side ever again. Out of 25 people. Maybe 3 said Thank you.
What could DH do?
- momof2cuteboys
Silver Member on Dec. 2, 2013 at 3:17 PMWowzers!