Who here has had a child ask why their BP doesn't love them? I read where a Sm says her Sd asks regularly why her BM doesn't love her (SD).
I had a really bad BM growing up, She loved me but didn't know how to be a (good)parent. I would be left at neighbors for days at a time, may not have meals every day, did not get bathed regularly or have clean clothes. She had a ton of issues, but she loved me. She didn't get CS and we barely saw my BF. She would move alot because my grandfather and step-grandmother tried taking custody and did succeed when I was 6.5 yrs. It threw my BM into BAD depression, like mental hospital bad. She was very unstable.
During all her bad/horrible parenting (leaving me for days, weeks at a time) Not hearing from her, etc. I never questioned or asked why she didn't love me. Not once. Now when I was an adult I had certain family tell me that my mom didn't love me and I kinda questioned it but then I really looked at her life and things she did that were good and I know she loved me, she just couldn't be a good parent.
BM is not really a great parent. She isn't, she is trying though and I can see she loves SS very much. He has never asked if she loves him or not. But as much as she frustrates me and angers me, I don't doubt her love.
I have a feeling when kids ask this, someone is feeding them a pile of bull. I am not saying its a SP, but maybe you should ask the child why they think that. You may be surpised to hear, its from the OP or a SP after all. Maybe you were venting that BM/BD didn't get the kid school clothes and said you could believe they didn't care. Kid translates it to you said OP doesn't love them.
Sorry I think I am ranting but that question/statement hits a nerve with me.