I am recently engaged and for the past year have taken on the roll of a step mom to two young boys ages 6 and 4. Their Mother is not in the picture at all, she lost custody of them almost 2 years ago. So their Father, my fiancée has full custody.
When I came into the picture, the boys were up until they fell asleep. They would eat whenever and whatever they wanted too. The house was a zoo! The boys pretty much had control of the house and had Dad wrapped around their fingers! All they had to do was shed a tear, sometimes a real one sometimes not and they got their way.
I moved in almost a year ago and since then I have put some stability into the home and into the boys lives. They eat normal meals, go to bed at a normal time and their play area is their bedroom. My issue is that I feel like I am always on them. Reminding them to flush the toilet, to chew with their mouths closed, to not talk when its time for bed, and so on and so on. My biggest problem right now is when we put them to bed, they talk in their room ( they share a room) for what seems like an hour, but its probably a half hour. They get up a few times during the night to go to the bathroom and the last thing is the 6 year old has been lying often. I would love some advice and or to hear similar stories. Thanks for reading!
on Dec. 10, 2013 at 7:35 PM