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BM is at family court v. party boy

Posted by on Dec. 18, 2013 at 2:41 PM
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 so, last night was ss5's christmas program at school. after, BM, SO, me and all our kids w the exception of my oldest went to pizza.

BM has family court today. she served party boy by mail last month. she wasnt sure if he got it because she hadnt heard boo. well, he responded by mail and she barely got it this week. she begged me and SO to go with her because she had no one to go. the one friend who would was watching her baby. i told SO to go, but i have to work.

in party boys response, he wants 50/50 timeshare, joint legal and physical and he wants to baby sit while she works because he doesnt have a job. i told her def do not go for that, because he will flake and leave you with your ass in your hand when you need to go to work. aside from that, he dranks and lays up all day and where the hell would he even take her, and how since his license is suspended. she agreed. his parents had called her the night before looking for him because he hadnt even called his daughteres (that he has full custody of due to their mom being deceased) for a week.

well SO said party boy looked shocked and mad that he was there, he always accused her of having something going with him (they have nothing going, he wasnt even going to go but i told him to) he came alone, but shortly after his bff showed up. the judge told BM and party boy to go talk to the pro bono attorney downstairs, so they did. the attorney told them to try to figure something out, so BM walked toward party boy and he told her "you aint getting what you want so just go sit down" way to compromise buddy.

now they are just waiting. stay tuned.

 
        
         

by on Dec. 18, 2013 at 2:41 PM
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OvrMyHead
by Silver Member on Dec. 18, 2013 at 2:49 PM

 The saga continues...  Hopefully she'll get full primary custody.

Its so great that your family get along with BM.  We are so bad about going to school events, usually I go to my kids and DH goes to his kids--would be nice for all of us to go together. 

faerie75
by Platinum Member on Dec. 18, 2013 at 2:57 PM
We didn't used to! Ugh she drove me nuts!
sara82lee
by Bronze Member on Dec. 18, 2013 at 5:28 PM
So what happened?
PumpkinSpice8
by Silver Member on Dec. 18, 2013 at 5:32 PM
I'm interested in hearing an update!
faerie75
by Platinum Member on Dec. 18, 2013 at 6:11 PM

 the dramz is what is happening! they are STILL there, its 3 pm and they been there since 9 am.

when BM and party boy were downstairs with the free attorneys again, party boys buddy came and sat with SO. he greeted him (knew who he was) they chatted about other things (the drama that is family court.... apparently, some guy brought his new wife and there was a catfight BM v. SM..... BM was a "crack whore" and SM was a "fat bitch" .. yea they were escorted out by security lol... i told SO thats why i stayed the helll away when he went through court, thats for mom and dad to figure out)

anyways SO left around 1, told BM he had to go to work, she was OK by then, pissed but ok. party boy is INSISTING he have the baby m-f while she works. she is refusing, because A. he is unreliable and she cant depend on him when she needs to get to work... BM is a lot of hott mess in many areas, but she doesnt like to miss work and shit like that.... B. he has no stable place to take the baby should he have her while BM works, and C. he has his license suspended for DUI so what are his plans for transport? (my SO had the same issue when BM and he went through court, suspended license, and they were ASSHOLES about it. not that its not serious, but they were asking that he piss test for visits and have a physical examination to determine if he was an alcoholic. he is not, he just fucked up. ANYWAYS back to teh subject..... ) she also reminded the bailiff that party boy has a warrant this morning.

her phone was dying when SO left. later, BM called from a payphone that was really bad reception and told him party boy was arrested and that his buddy got crazy at court..... but he couldnt hear well enough to get the particulars. idk if he was arrested for showing his ass or for the warrant.

stay tuned.....

faerie75
by Platinum Member on Dec. 18, 2013 at 6:13 PM

 oh! when party boy and BM came out from talking to the attorney the second time they were both pissed off and huffing and puffing. party boy joined his buddy, who was near SO, and loudly asked them both to go get a beer with him. lol! frackin weirdo!

jules2boys
by Silver Member on Dec. 18, 2013 at 6:51 PM
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Please tell me YOU and DH have the kids while she's going through this mess!  I know you said her BFF had the baby but what about the others? 

What a mess!  'At least' there wasn't a cat fight, but geez... I hope party boy said 'you ain't getting what you want ' to BM in front of the attorney downstairs so the attorney knew what he/she was dealing with.  I think you helped her with her requests so I'm assuming they're reasonable requests BM is making.  And, lastly, I'm happy to hear that BM is still got  herself straight and clean so she can fight this for that baby.  What a mess though... :( 

faerie75
by Platinum Member on Dec. 18, 2013 at 6:56 PM
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 oh another update.. BM REALLY lucked up.. they didnt file on her DUI. she went to court and no charges were filed. she isnt sure why but i think probably what happened was, she blew 08 or more at the scene so was charged with cvc 23152a/b (which is cali vehicle code for driving under influence w a BAC over .08) but when you get to the jail, they take your blood and THAT is what is admissable in court.. so methinks when they drew her blood it was under 08 so they did not file. she REALLY lucked out! party boy knows about the whole thing, so her not having charges filed will help. he, on the other hand, has several convictions for DUI and currently his licnese is suspended.

faerie75
by Platinum Member on Dec. 18, 2013 at 6:57 PM
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 they were all at school. we have them tonight so hopefully she has calmed down by tomorrow.

Quoting jules2boys:

Please tell me YOU and DH have the kids while she's going through this mess!  I know you said her BFF had the baby but what about the others? 

What a mess!  'At least' there wasn't a cat fight, but geez... I hope party boy said 'you ain't getting what you want ' to BM in front of the attorney downstairs so the attorney knew what he/she was dealing with.  I think you helped her with her requests so I'm assuming they're reasonable requests BM is making.  And, lastly, I'm happy to hear that BM is still got  herself straight and clean so she can fight this for that baby.  What a mess though... :( 

 

 
        
         

annabl1970
by Gold Member on Dec. 18, 2013 at 7:16 PM
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What mess!
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