Flash forward to the first Christmas after MIL said everyone would be equals. Well...they were! DH refers to this as 'crap for everyone!' MIL bought cheap, low quality items for everyone. SD still had nicer things, but they were still not anything anyone would want. It would be difficult to say it wasn't 'fair',though.
Before anyone says it, MIL and SFIL do not have any economic issues. They are millionaires..,literally millionaires. They own several homes, country club, travel all the time - the works. There is no reason economically for this behavior.
Go forward a few more years and I have had a baby - a BIOLOGICAL grandchild! He is also given the crap treatment and HIS first gift is a lovely girls outfit. Every toy item they give him is thrown away within 24 hours because it is either unsafe or such poor quality I don't feel it is safe to keep. The same thing happened when our daughter was born 18 months later.
This year, SD is now living with them. A giant Box O'Crap arrived yesterday after DH visited (we are not invited to visit because it is too 'upsetting' for SD. MIL makes no effort to see the babies). This year's pile is worse than ever. I told DH that I would like to include a food stamps application in the thank you note since they are clearly having economic issues - he feels my sarcasm would not be appreciated. I have asked him to tell MIL that gifts are no longer necessary. She clearly had no interest and I have no need for this junk. Plus, it is incredibly wasteful! I would rather she make a $25 donation to Toys For Tots on the children's names.
Bratty vent over. This family makes me crazy :( I'm going to go hug my babies now.