My step daughter hopefully is the last bump in my road to life
A little about me. I was a widow for 9 yrs raising my two sons on my own. I lost my dad 1-1/2 yrs after I lost my spouse. My boys were 6 and 10 when their dad died. I remarried my husband now 4yrs ago. He has two daughters 24 and 19 yrs old. When I sold my home and furniture and my youngest son and I moved into his home with both his daughters. The youngest stepdaughter has not made me feel welcomed in the home. My husband was a widow also and lost his wife when steph was 11yrs old. Her mom did not work and did everything for her. I work full time 45 or more hrs a week. She has always compared herself to my youngest son. When I first moved in she was constantly trying to sit between my husband and I. I was massaging my husbands neck one day while watching tv and snuggling together. One day I came Into the room and saw my step daughter trying to massage my husbands neck. I told her that was not appropriate for her that is what a husband and wife or boyfriend girlfriend do. She has written her dad a few letters saying I am nothing like her mom and she wishes that it was just her him and her sister. I have not had to deal with a very moody kid before. She will be okay one minute and then get rude with me. I have never punished or yelled at her. I have asked her to clean up or pick up after herself and I get the whole attitude. She is very ungrateful for what she has. She wrote in her letter that "dad you use to treat me like a princess and now you don't". "Dad your first wife should be number one but your second wife should not come before your kids". "She also said that her house does not seem like her house any more". Several times she has mentioned her house. Her dad has told her a few times that it was his and my house and that when she moves out and gets her own house she can do whatever she wants with it. No matter what I say she takes it wrong and twist it to fit her rage. The next problem she runs to her aunts and vents to her and then comes back worse. My sweet husband is very supportive of me. He sees how much I do and bend over backwards for his daughter. I lost my mom now a little over a year. I have had enough bumps in my road and just want peace. My stepdaughter and I don't even talk now. She has beat me down that I cry a lot.