I know its long but please help!....I have been a step mom for about a year now. The second I laid eyes on my SS I knew right then that my life would forever change. I loved him then and I love him now. With no children of my own, being a first time mom to this little guy was difficult. Not knowing where I fit in, what I could and could not say and what I could and could not do. Life was hard and it hasn't gotten easier but I wouldn't change a thing. I came into his life when he was 4 and he just turned 5. This is where my story starts.... my hubby and his ex were divorced for a year before we were married but the ex still loved him and fought for him even when we were married. With me and my husband both in the military and living so far from the ex, visitation with my step son jayden was hard. After the divorce it was agreed that it would be joint custody with month on month off visitation. But that soon changed. After 4 months of month on month off we learned jayden was molested while in his mothers care. Jayden told us what happened as best he could and when we contacted the ex she said he was lying. This woman has had 10 fiances within the year and always introduces these guys to jayden with no promise that they will be around tomorrow. We immediately got him counseling and opened a cps case. She was found guilty of child neglect. And she later signed over sole custody to my husband. Since then she has had supervised visitation and after 8 months of him being away she has yet to send money to help take care of him. She is now pregnant and spends all her money on preparing for the baby. She has told people we are keeping her son away from her and all she wants to do is be a mom to him. The therapist once told us to cut off communication because jayden was acting out every time she called and it helped but I soon felt bad and started communication back up. Since then he's had nightmares about the molestation every time he talks to her. My question is...am I overstepping my bounds. I'm trying to protect him the best I Can. I'm not looking to tAke her place as his mom, I just dont want anything bad to hAppen to him ever again. Is it right of me to cut off communication since he has nightmares every time he talks to her. Supervised visitation isn't in the custody paperwork but she's mentally and financially unstable. She still has contacted with the molester and is possibly pregnant with his baby.... what do I do as a step mom. Protect him or let her be the mom she wants.
on Dec. 23, 2013 at 11:09 PM