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I think I just ended my relationship

Posted by on Dec. 31, 2013 at 2:10 PM
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I think I just ended my relationship. We live by the decisions we make, what makes a difference is our willingness to change. I don't have that in me. I have failed us.
by on Dec. 31, 2013 at 2:10 PM
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pseudomamma
by Bronze Member on Dec. 31, 2013 at 2:12 PM
I'm sorry. I hope you get what you want and need.
progressandjoy
by Silver Member on Dec. 31, 2013 at 2:16 PM
Sorry ... ?

Will ending the relationship make you happy? In what ways aren't you willing to change?
Shutting_Down
by on Dec. 31, 2013 at 2:17 PM
Right now... I just want to disappear.
MommySabs
by Gold Member on Dec. 31, 2013 at 2:21 PM
I'm sorry. Sometimes moving on is the best thing you can do for yourself. I'm sorry it came to this.
sandeeyo
by Le Bonjour Chat on Dec. 31, 2013 at 2:38 PM
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I think your DH has failed you by being a using dick.

What about him?  Was he going to make changes for you?  Or was he expecting you to make all the changes?

whatIknownow
by Emerald Member on Dec. 31, 2013 at 2:39 PM
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I can't remember your story. 

But ending the relationship is not a failure if the relationship wasn't right for you. In that case  it's actually a victory.

DDDaysh
by on Dec. 31, 2013 at 2:42 PM

I think you are on your path to a better life!

CrunchMaMaBear
by Queen Crunch on Dec. 31, 2013 at 2:44 PM
Stay positive. Sometimes you have to go through the fire to turn into gold.
DDDaysh
by on Dec. 31, 2013 at 2:44 PM

They have a toddler son together, but her bf is still legally married to the mother of his 13-year-old daughter.  SD had been living with OP and BF, but now wants to live with mom.  BF refuses to file for divorce.  I think that's pretty much the story. 

Quoting whatIknownow:

I can't remember your story. 

But ending the relationship is not a failure if the relationship wasn't right for you. In that case  it's actually a victory.


AmericanDream
by Gold Member on Dec. 31, 2013 at 2:46 PM

You have failed nothing.  Your SO has failed you by leading you on in believing that he has separated himself from his wife and was fully committed to you and your relationship with him and your child together.

I'm sorry that you have to go through this. I really, truly, deeply am but now it's time to pick up the pieces and get things together for your young son.  

I still think that you should consider therapy.  At least for a little while. 

You really need to work on your self esteem and building up your feelings of self-worth.  

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