DH and I just got in an argument about MY DD9 going to BM's with SD.
I said NO, that she couldn't go. BM house rules consist of no rules at all for the most part, and they(the adults) engage in things that I personally do not agree with, such as smoking weed and drinking in front of any and all kids.Often these things have lead to violence in the past, and I want NO part of it for DD. DH has talked to BM about these types of things, but it is ultimately BM's choice as to what goes on in her home. I can control DD being there, I can't control SD having to go back home. DH is pissed b/c he thinks I am basically saying it is OK for SD to see/hear the things that go on there, but it's not OK for my DD. I could try to explain til I m blue in the face, but it would do NO good. WE have ZERO say about that home, BUT *I* have 100% say about my DD going there, and the answer is freakin NO!