Opinions please :
Sd is often very tired when we get her for her visits and sleeps the whole time. Last summer we had her all the time, after the first week she acted like a "normal" four year old kid. For christmas we had her 7 days..every single day all she wanted to do is sleep, she had no appetite, very pale and dark circles under her eyes. Again, she has been like this in the past and when we mentioned it to a pediatrician he said "It could be genetic, some kids are just pale with dark circles under their eyes....." He ignored the sleeping all the time part and the fact that when she was with us all the time she had color, she wasnt tired, she ate normally. My husband and I were leaning towards some childhood depression. A friend suggested maybe she has a health condition. Also, her real mom is a known drug addict. Drug exposure? Any opinions. I'll list her "symptoms".
Pale skin, dark circles under eyes, extreme fatigue, intermittent poor coordination (compaired to children her age), lack of appetite, will use her fingers to make herself vomit to avoid eating, withdrawn (would not even let us read her bedtime stories to her. did not get excited about any of her christmas gifts), whispers then gets upset when people can't understand her (she talked in a normal voice when she lived with us, but she did this before when she was living with mom and just visiting), chews on her hand and fingers causing bleeding, frequent large bruises
ive included the psychological symptoms too..but what if they are masking an underlying health condition?
has anyone ever heard of, or seen symptoms of children exposed to meth?? I know her mom used to shoot up and take pills, but i guess its possible someone is smoking around her..?? or cooking it????
We are fighting for custody, her mom recently agreed to sign over custody. We are afraid to get social services involved because bm will get angry and back out..besides social services never helped when sd was being molested by bm's bf or when we've turned in pictures of bruises and burns OR when bm spent the summer in treatment. Our lawyer keeps saying wait it out unless we feel sd is in immediate danger (which weve felt for 2 years now with no help from cps :( ) Obviously the next step is taking her to a doctor, i just feel like we were blown off last time.
THANKS for your opinions!!