Anyhow! I'm a Bm of 3 dds. 1-10-12 and my dh has his sons "week on and off"(usually 3-4 days less then Bm)DH pays her CS.
Ss just turned 18 and wants a car. Bm is buying him a car because my dh will not buy him a car without ss "working" for it. SS quit his job,doesn't really do any chores,grades are bad even though he's really really smart,ditches on BMs days,Ect....
The plan was My dh would have paid 1/3(ss,Bm,my dh) of the car,insurance,gas,Ect. Since ss hasn't tried doing any of this,dh will not help with the costs of the car. He has told ss that once he sees some effort,he will help with gas and college expenses(he's still a senior)
Bm,her dh and ss are upset about this and think my dh is a deadbeat. I would do the same thing to my own dds if they didn't put their part.
How did/do handle this situation? Ss is a good kid but he has no motivation because he's been "given" everything without working for it. IMO.