Would looking into BM getting supervised visit be justified?
First, let me say that this is NOT my situation. A friend brought this scenario to me asking for my input as a SM. I figured since many here are pro BM it might be a good opportunity to hear whether your thoughts on the subject are the same or different.
BD and SM are custodial. BM has EOWE visitation but only uses it once a month (one overnight usually fri-Saturday). THe child is an 11 yo girl.
In the last year the BM has had 4 different boyfriends. She met them at the grocery store, online dating website (2 of them), and a car repair shop. - I don't know if where she met them is important but detail in case it is.
Guy #1 - lived in a motel, said he traveled a lot, BM met him online and introduced the girl to him the following week. Took the girl to the motel with her where they all spent the night then BM left the girl at the motel with the guy who she (the girl) had met twice while BM went to work. At the time of the sleepover BM had known the guy for 1 month (if that) - BD didn't know about this until the girl came home. Nothing happened thank God.
Guy #2 - BM met this guy at the grocery store. He moved in 1 week after them meeting, and the girl had not met him yet when he was already living in the house. BM made the girl go with him to the grocery store alone even though the girl wanted to stay with BM. BM allowed the guy to drive her car with the girl and herself in the car with him while he was drinking. He would drink starting in the morning and BM would buy him beer (on one occassion they stopped 3 different places in 1 day to get beer because he ran out). After the BD found out he called the BM to tell her he had an issue with it. The guy grabbed the phone from BM and threatened the BD and told him they would be coming to take the girl from him.(relationship lasted 4-5 months).
Guy #3 - BM met him online. He moved in 1 week after they met (same scenario as above). BM often left them alone together even though the girl would beg BM not to. (relationship lasted 4-5 months)
Guy #4 - BM met him at a car repair place. BM met him a few days before he was coming to her house and the girl found out about him and met him that first day. They don't know if he has moved in as this all happened right before Christmas.
The SM and BD are concerned for the girls safety. They do not know these random people and honestly either does the BM. They feel BM has just been really lucky that nothing has happened to the girl while in BM's care and that BM has given these men plenty of opportunity to harm the girl. So, would it be concerning to you and would this qualify as a reason for supervised visits based on BM's choices?