How the hell does that even work when parents get divorced and new partners come on the scene?
I look at it this way...the "original" cosleeping agreement is null and void. The parents are no longer a couple and no longer have a bed that is used with just them and their child. If a parent remarries, common sense should dictate that if they plan on sharing a bed with their spouse that the new spouse should have a say in who sleeps with them or not. To me, it doesn't matter if it was something the parent used to do all the time or not. Dynamics have changed and a new adult who is not the biological parent is now also sleeping in the bed.
Maybe it's just me but I would think my husband had lost his mind if he had expected two girls the same size as me to sleep with us on a regular basis....not only isn't there room it doesn't feel appropriate. Had he every expected that to happen he would have been sleeping on an air mattress on their bedroom floor. Unless EVERYONE is ok with it (including the other bioparents who are no longer in the home) I don't think it should be occuring.
What are your thoughts on this? Does the parent who allowed the cosleeping have higher say over who sleeps in the bed or is this a decision that needs to be rethought as a couple?