I am a mom of a 5 yr old. Her Dad & I are divorced 2+yrs. I'm also surprised to be pregnant due in April. My sons father (SF) has a 2 yrs old. His DDs mother passed away when she was 6 ms old. My SF and I are going to marry & join our families under one roof in the fall. When discussing stepparent roles he feels I need to play a more motherly role to his DD & I feel my DD doesn't need him as a dad, she has one. Here is where I have questions, he feels I should be his DDs mom, not her stepmom, he's even asked me to consider adopting her as my daughter legally when we marry. He feels I should step into this new role now as to make the transition into unity easier. I'm feeling that might make it easier for some of us but maybe not all of us. How does one just become a child's mom? If I am to be her mom why is it I feel like treating her how I would treat my DD isn't good enough? How is this fair to my DD? I guess I'm really just struggling all around here and would love any advice.
on Jan. 9, 2014 at 8:29 PM