How much time do you spend being upset about bm per year?
Better yet, what could you do with that time if those thoughts appeared and disappeared with little time spent.
Most people likely won't be honest I bet (and that's ok, but mentally record your number and think about it)
There are 2-3 instances per year where I have to deal with finances or something going south and it bugs me for an hour or so. And I growl and forget it and maybe growl again. And probably 1 that gets to me for a full day and I can't quite yank myself away until I sleep on it.
If I gathered that all up, it probably amounts to (worst case) about 36 hours a year that I waste on her. And I do consider it a total waste of my time. It doesn't change things or really have any effect on anyone but me.
That is enough time to go skiing for a full day, sleep on it and to follow up with nice 8 hour spa day.
That would be time better spent. I'm kinda human and people yank my chain occasionally and I get caught up. But I bet I could find better things to do with my time than be angry at someone I cannot change.
What about you? And whatever your number is.... Would you rather be angry or doing something else?