Long story short 2 years ago my husband had an affair which resulted in a baby. We have been through extensive counsling and are working on our marriage daily.
The child comes over every Wed and everyother weekend.
My husband and I have 2 other kids (15 and 17) who have gone through a lot with the situation. They don't have a great relationship with their dad, though we are working on it everyday. My daughter for one "cannot stand him." it is understandable, they are hurt (he wasn't there for them during the affair. missed events and her birthday)
Anyway, turns out the stepkid is allergic to dogs. The mom wants us to get rid of the dog. However, we have had this dog for 16 years. He is going to pass soon and I am unwilling to make my child sarafice time with the dog she has had since before she was born (not to mention who would adopt a dog this old). BM is going to court to stop this. My kids have sacraficed soooo much in this situation and I feel this is taking it too far for them. DH and I don't want to give the dog away, but we don't know whatelse to do.
When my stepkid comes over we put the dog in my daughters room and vacuum and clean. Not enough for BM.
What would you do?