I have been away from this group for months now, but some recent developments have gotten me into a predicament and I could really use some advice. Both my husband and I have some major career decisions to make and they potentially will clash with eachother and will definitely affect my skids. Just to preface, currently I am the primary breadwinner and have a solid career that I enjoy and my DH is working at a job that is not in his filed, it's just for the paycheck. Anyway, a little while back my dh was given an opportunity to possibly get his dream job, but it would require a move overseas. However, this opportunity has been put on hold for an indefinite amount of time, but dh still has high hopes for it to happen. Meanwhile, I recently learned that there is a possibilty that my entire office will shut down by the end of the year. If that happens, I will either have move out of state to work at another office or lose my job. But without my income, we would not be able to afford our house or really any house in the current area we live in with it's high cost of living, And since my field of work is very specialized, there is no other opportunites for me to work in the area that we live. I would have to get some kind of entry level job in another field and we would still barely be able to survive financially. So the issue is, my instinct is that we are best off moving to the place where my other office is located and I could keep my job and DH could look for something that is in his field, but in the meantime we could live off of just my income. DH, on the other hand, thinks his dream job will work out by then, and that we should just try to stay put and make do until that happens. But IF DH does get that job overseas, there is almost no chance that I can stay working in my career field, and if we move to where my other office is located, DH will have less of a chance at getting a job in his field. The third option is that we stay where we are and I possibly lose my job and go on unemployment until I find something decent, but still not ideal, and DH stays where he is working until he can find something in his field. But that may mean we lose our house and cannot afford to live comfortably. All scenarios have downside. The kids will suffer in all scenarios. Moving overseas means that we may have to leave them all with BM, or just take one or two kids, but then they will rarely see the other parent. Moving out of state for my job would be the same thing, except we could do summer and holiday visitation easier. Finally if we stay put and I lose my job, the kids will lose their home anyway and we will not be able to afford to give them all the things they currently enjoy. I know consensus will probably be to put the kids first, but which scenario is best for them? IDK.