My husband and I both have joint custody of our kids and have had them on the same visitation schedule of every other week. I've really like our schedule the way it is as I work from home running my own business and so on the weeks we don't have any kids it gives me a chance to focus on that and also get some time to myself. We have 5 kids between the two of us; his two and my three, plus we are expecting one of our own any day now. Well anyways last night his ex wife informed us that she is moving all the way to Minnesota!! We live in Utah! Here's the kicker, she's not taking the kids and she's leaving on Monday! She is leaving them here with us and only wants to have them in the summer. I am currently a stay at home mom to all the kids when they are here but I really don't know if I can handle this. His kids are good kids but they don't listen to me and my husband works a lot of various hours because he is a tow truck driver and is always on call so I will be the one solely resposible for them. I am not sure I can do this and I am also worried that is will cause resentment in my own kids because they already struggle with not having enough quality time with me. I don't know if this is going to be good for our marriage either. I am in shock!
I guess I should clarify that I am not attacking BM! She cannot financially take care of the kids and her and her husband are always arguing and so it's not a healthy environment for the kids. I am glad she is not trying to take them with her because it is best that they stay here where we can take care of them and they don't need to leave their school, friends or family. She is a good mom and she has always been very involved with the kids thats why its so schocking to me. I never expected this from her but I am understanding to her situation. Also I should I do need to say DH isn't gone for days at a time; he is on call two nights a week and every other weekend so he does work various hours. I shouldn't have said I will be the one solely taking care of them but I will be the one doing the majority of it because my husbands work hours. Thank you everyone for the support, when I originally posted I was very much in shock; I'm getting ready to have a baby any day now and now adding two more on such short notice had me feeling overwhelmed but I know we can do it and we do have a strong support sytem here with our family and friends.