Tomorrow evening, DH leaves for Pakistan for a year. We've spent a lot of time with his kids and his family over the last few months and they all seem to be handling it well. I was doing fine with it until the last few days. Now not so much.
Knowing that tonight is the last time we'll spend the night under the same roof for months? Hate.I know WHY we're doing it ($$). I know that DH wants to be able to pay for college and cars and other things for the kids and this is the best way to make up for some lost time when he was unemployed...
But for discussion...try this one on for size.
My DH (supposedly) gets two R&R trips, two weeks apiece. The gov't will either A) fly him home or B) fly all of us to London to meet and then the rest is on us. I say "supposedly" because depending on how things are going, he may or may not be able to take his R&R trips.
Here's the evil SM in me. The kids have their mom. Their grandparents. Their aunt, uncle and cousins. All right there just like they have their whole lives. I on the other hand, am in a state far far away from family and friends and starting tomorrow, my husband whom is kind of my "main" person.
For the first R&R, we're planning to take the kids down to their grandparents' winter place in FL for spring break for the week. Whether or not DH can make it, and we won't know til a week or so before, I am supposed to drive 10 hours to get the kids, then 20 some hours to FL, then back to MI to drop them off 20 hours and then 10 hours back to where I now live. I am not sure that I want to do all that if I am not going to see DH but I know it means a lot to him and to the kids so it will happen either way. At minimum, they'll get the nice spring vacay that they're used to.
But if he DOES get to go, he mentioned trying to book a one week cruise after the kids are back in school as they only get one week off for SB. DH mentioned this to his mom and sister over the holidays and they felt like we are shorting the kids. That he should put off his R&R until they're out of school so they can have the full two weeks with their dad. We're already planning the late summer R&R in Europe so they can take the full two weeks then.
So am I an a-hole for really looking forward to the idea of having a little alone time with DH in April if he gets to come home?
They (his family) seem to think that we should only plan the R&R for times when the kids are available for the full two weeks which means two trips in summer. If we do that, he won't see them til June. Then with an early Aug trip, they wouldn't see him again til late Jan of 2015. The spring break attempt seems better than waiting til June. And I'd like some alone time built in.