I am cranky today. Broke my pinky toe last night, my new glasses while very cool looking are making things blurry and DH snored like a fucking freight train last night so I slept on the couch. Maybe I am just not understanding things.
BM was a SAHM at the time of divorce. From what I have gathered, regardless of the divorce, she was planning on returning to the workforce and it just had not happened yet. She was granted majority residential but DH quickly ended up with practically 50/50. Even though she worked part-time and he worked full-time. I guess kudos to them for seeing the value in equal overnights with both parents. I think each of them worked hard to be home close to 3:00 on the days they had the kids.
Fast forward to today, even though DH moved 3 hours away, he negotiated telecommuting times to allow him about 35 - 40% time with his kids. Now all DH hears is how busy BM is because she had to go back to work full-time and that she consistently works 80 hour weeks. Yes, he assumes this is hyperbole, but let's take it at face value and assume she does work 80 hour weeks.
Should DH file for a change in custody? He can easily only work 40 hours in the office and has tons of flexibility to work from home and flex his time. If the boys were living primarily with DH, he would see them more than BM sees them currently.
Is part of this debate about a father working so much just leftover sexisit ideas of gender roles?