SS is 13 years old. BM is pregnant with her third child, due in 2 months. SS was present at her second child's birth. DH and I both think it's a little weird he was in the room - he was 10 at the time - but whatever. SS has not been present at the birth of DH's two other children but was brought to the hospital as soon as BM would allow. She refused to let DH have SS during her time so he could meet his siblings sooner. SS had to wait until it was DH's time and then DH brought him to the hospital.
BM is trying to plan for labor/delivery. She wants SS there for the entire process and wants DH to agree to let her pick SS up if he is with him when she goes in to labor. Knowing BM, it is likely she will "go in to labor" 3 - 4 times before she actually is in labor and delivers. DH is agreeable that he wants SS to be there if it's something he wants and he doesn't want him to miss. However, DH will not let her take SS just because she calls and says she is in labor. If she goes to the hospital and it is confirmed that she is in labor and they will be keeping her, then DH will bring SS to the hospital. I feel like this is fair. Has anyone gone through anything like this before? What did your DH agree to?
Note: DH is aware this might not even be an issue because SS may be with BM when she goes in to labor but we want it to be discussed and addressed prior to labor/delivery.