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Sneaky SD sneaking onto internet while "sleeping"

Posted by on Jan. 23, 2014 at 12:41 PM
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We have very strict rules in our house regarding internet use. Last year we discovered my then 10 yr old SD looking up porn sights. Her mother got her a tablet for Christmas, we failed at monitoring her enough and a couple months later, when I turned on her tablet, she had a porn tab open.

Ok, I know, this was our fault for not monitoring her. So, after some talks we cut her off from any internet unless she is on the couch in the living room with us home.

My DD just got a new tablet from her dad for Christmas, and allowed my SD to borrow it. My mom, who lives next door and has Wifi had logged my SD on in the past, even tho we asked her not to EVER log her into her account out of fear she will find out the password. Well, of course she DID find out the password and admitted to us last night, she wrote it down a long time ago!

Her dad walked in on her last night noticing her clicking off a tab real quick. So, he confiscated it, and we decided to do some snooping. She's been texting thru an app her mom let her download to a "boyfriend" (we know about him) AFTER she was supposed to be asleep at night. She was also conducting internet searches, but we did not find any porn. Whew!

How the hell can we keep up with this? I am not tech savvy, however, he dad is. This is not the first time since initially catching her she's been in trouble for sneaking onto the internet. She used her Aunt's Wifi as well a few months back, and her mom discovered porn on her old tablet.

It seems nearly impossible to keep up with all the ways kids access the internet and are able to chat with people. What does everyone do to moniter them? I was never for getting them tablets at this age, but everyone tells me I'm living in the past and most kid's have them these days.

by on Jan. 23, 2014 at 12:41 PM
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buttercup627
by Bronze Member on Jan. 23, 2014 at 1:07 PM
If her parent's think she's overly curious and bordering on obsessive/addicted to porn they might want to get her into therapy. Kids often get curious about sex it's normal to explore.
whatIknownow
by Ruby Member on Jan. 23, 2014 at 1:13 PM
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Unplug your router after a certain time at night.

Talk to her about sex, porn, and her interest in porn. It is natural that she would be curious. 

amomynous_j
by on Jan. 23, 2014 at 1:14 PM

take it away entirely until she earns it back. 

veggiemom474
by Member on Jan. 23, 2014 at 1:15 PM

 

I don't think that would work. We don't have any TV, so we use the internet as our nightly enterainment once the kids go to sleep.

Quoting whatIknownow:

Unplug your router after a certain time at night.

Talk to her about sex, porn, and her interest in porn. It is natural that she would be curious. 

 

amomynous_j
by on Jan. 23, 2014 at 1:15 PM

and i'm sure there are apps that exist that limit usage and/or allow you to monitor what she does without actually having to be on her tablet. 

as for porn..and her having a boyfriend -- i'd be concerned she's thinking of, or already being sexually active. 

veggiemom474
by Member on Jan. 23, 2014 at 1:17 PM

 

Quoting amomynous_j:

take it away entirely until she earns it back. 

 We've done this several times, but as most adolescents, she cannot resist when opportunity arises.

FreedomTruth
by Bronze Member on Jan. 23, 2014 at 1:18 PM

Norton Family app will block sites containing whatever material you do not want her exposed to, set times for usage, and email you a list of all sites she attempts to go to when you are not looking. This is all pretty normal behaviour. Talk to her about what she is hearing about in school and what she is looking at and who she is talking to. Do not yell or make her feel ashamed because again perfectly normal.

 

amomynous_j
by on Jan. 23, 2014 at 1:18 PM
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Quoting veggiemom474:


Quoting amomynous_j:

take it away entirely until she earns it back. 

 We've done this several times, but as most adolescents, she cannot resist when opportunity arises.

then she's proven she's too immature to have a device with internet access. she can't follow rules, she can't have one. ...at least that's what we'd in our house.

veggiemom474
by Member on Jan. 23, 2014 at 1:19 PM

 

Quoting amomynous_j:

and i'm sure there are apps that exist that limit usage and/or allow you to monitor what she does without actually having to be on her tablet. 

as for porn..and her having a boyfriend -- i'd be concerned she's thinking of, or already being sexually active. 

 The "boyfriend" is just a friend as far as we know. As far as sexually active, NO WAY!!! She has 0 opportunity for that! She is always in the presence of an adult, unless she's in her bedroom.

AmericanDream
by Gold Member on Jan. 23, 2014 at 1:19 PM

 Put a password on it and don't tell her what it is?  We gave my SD a comp a while ago and the rule was that she had to ask to use it and had to have her door open.  Easy enough since it was password protected.  Now, she knows that password but still had to have the door open...

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