I am that BM that would make many a SM I have seen in here freak out on a DAILY basis.
I don't do PTA. I don't sit down and DO homework....ever. I will help with issues as my kids have them. It is their homework. Not mine. I don't feel they learn anything if I am sitting there coaxing them through it. I DO however check the parent portal for grades and attendance at least twice a week.
I don't clean their rooms. I didn't make the mess. If they are living in a shit hole, they can fix it or it stays.
I don't bake for their classes. Hell, who am I fooling, I don't bake. I just don't want to. When I do, it is magical, I just don't feel like it when I have the world's best bakery less then 3 miles from my home. If I did, the schools don't allow it anyways.
We eat out a lot. When I cook, my kids don't have to eat what I cooked. They can make themselves something else. Food battles are a no. Some weeks I don't go to the grocery store. Why? Because DH takes the kids to the corner store/deli for breakfast before school every morning, I stock pile their lunch food they pack and I keep snack stuff stocked for DD after school. DS goes to Learning Bridge after school, he doesn't need snacks. My freezer is full. If I know I am going to have a crazy week, I don't bother with dinner groceries at all. I will get home and look around and say screw it, lets go eat.
I drink occasionally. I'm not talking get drunk all the time. I'm talking I had a 12 hour work day where I did 24 hours worth of stuff. I need a martini. My kids have watched me make it, and drink it.
I co-sleep with my 11 and 15 year old's when my husband is not home. The kids would probably want to sleep with me all the time if the bed was bigger. I grew up like this. We are all a fairly cuddly bunch.
I watch The Walking Dead with the kids and don't restrict much. They know right from wrong, watching a scary movie won't change that. They don't have nightmares. Never have.
Feel free to discuss how as my kids SM would you feel. I am interested in how some of you people get the feelings you do about things BM does that does not concern you.