Do you think a BM and BD can co-parent on some things and not others? Or is at all or nothing type situation?
Our situation is a bit high conflict, there's ZERO communication between DH and BM outside of email unless it's an absolute emergency. This makes co-parenting somewhat difficult because decisions either need to be put off until BM responds to an email or DH just has to make decisions and update BM as to what he's decided.
BM has had very little input it SD's medical care, education, or pretty much anything. She's previously sent emails where she's threatened to take DH back to court for XYZ because he didn't wait for her to give an option, but then she NEVER gives an opinion. On the other hand, she's also sent several emails where she specifically says, "I approve of the choices you and SM are making for SD."
But then there is ZERO communication from BM about what goes on at her house during visits. DH has no idea if SD is doing her therapy exercises, reading (she's supposed to read daily for homework), wearing her eye patch, etc. Sometimes SD says she does that, but SD also often lies about therapy stuff because she hates doing it, so at home DH does her therapy exercises with her (so it's more fun for her).
So, do you think that co-parenting is all or nothing? Or can there be areas where the parents work together and areas where each parent does what they feel is best during their custodial time?