We have shared physical custody of SS and BM is still keeping things from us :( He got his report card Friday ..he told us it was in his book bag on Saturday. We asked if we could please see it and he said sure but guess what it wasn't in there. So disappointing.
In the past three school years we have seen his report card twice :( We do not get papers to sign up to help with class room parties or anything because BM sends them back before we even knew the sign ups were out until it is to late :(
I made SS a physical appointment at the doctors office after I found out he hadn't had one in three years and then that led to him getting orthotics because at the physical appointment found out he has had flat feet and that explained the feet and leg pain he got when he walked for a while.
Also made him a dentist appointment after finding ouit he hadn't been to the dentist in three years also :( On a positive note he didn't have any cavities :) Thank goodness for that :)
And BM will send SS over in shirts that are two sizes to small and smell like cigarette smoke. and usually has at least two new flea bites on him after being there for three days.
BM gets mad at me though for making the appointments..but she had three years to do something. It is sad. And now she is trying to buy his love by buying him a cellphone at age 8. Also and I-pod and lets him watch pretty much whatever he wants...he has watched Walking Dead and played the game and also has watched The Chainsaw Massacre. I just don't get it...he asked me before if I would wake him up at 6am instead of 730 on school days that way he can play a game before getting ready and I told him No. He asked why my mom does that for me..so I said to SS that I believe his sleep is more important then playing video games.
Can any SM out there relate to me??? I feel so lost...I have two bio children of my own and so I treat SS as my own and BM says that she likes that I do that so he isn't left out but then will turn around and say that I shouldn't do so much because I am not his mom...and I know that and if BM would do HER job I wouldn't HAVE to...I would LOVE it if BM would step up and be the mother to him that he deserves. SS has come to our house crying because his mom didn't have time to play with him because she was fixing her hair..I can relate to that because my mom was the same way except for the cigarette smake and flea bites. :( I feel for him and I let him know I have been there and know it is tough but that is still his mom and she does love him even if she doesn't show it to well. :( so sad