I am not their parent but also not their friend I am their SM.
Over the past few years I have come to realize that SO and I have different parenting styles. I am more strict and he is more layed back. SO has 2 kids and I have 2 kids. I thought he was like this because he only gets his kids EOWE and didn't want to punish them while they were over here. SO and I had a conversation this weekend and I realized that he has always been like this. SO talks to his kids about what they did wrong but doesn't punish them. I on the other hand punish my kids by making them sit in their rooms or send them to bed early or take things away like TV and video games. Something happen this weekend with SD and SO talked to her and I was like that is it she doesn't get a punishment she just gets talked to. I felt like something more need to get done. I have always felt with my kids that I am their mother not their friend. Now with skids I don't want to be the evil step mother but I also want them to have rules and if they don't follow the rules there are punishments. But I am not their parent they have 2 parents. Even though sometimes I think my SO try's to be their friend and I know BM try's to be their friend. I see SO and BM trying to out do each other with "What parent can be more fun" So Dad takes them skating and then mom next week takes them skating and a movie. BM is just petty like that and always has to out do us. SO has stop that stupid game but still wants to do fun things with his kids. Anyway there are times I feel like I am the only real adult here and the only real parent here but I am not skids parent. So what do I do. I am open for suggestions.