Have no clue what to do, but tired of being the nice guy! (long vent)
I have been with my fiance for over two years, and I swear his BM has made these two years nothing but pure hell. She is constantly blowing up my SO phone no matter what the time is and half the time it isn't even about their daughter, its about her personal life. I get tons of snide remarks on anything and everything I do in my life that she finds out about (she seems to think I HAVE to have her on Facebook or we listen to complaining until I give in and accept the friend request). My SO got me a beautiful Origami Owl necklace for my bday that had all three kids represented, my SO and my birthstone, the word mom, and a couple other charms that represented us as a family... had to remove his daughters little charm cause I was a c**t for having it in there since I was not her mom and with the word mom in there that's what it meant. I had to sit back and act like it was okay when she demanded we did not get anything for SD that BM got her for Christmas, but yet we got SD a bike from Santa and BM went and got the same exact one and gave it to her first (guess the $1300 worth of other things wasn't enough). Then BM is constantly asking us for more and more money above what SO pays in child support, and we know she has the money. She recently lost her job and blew her 401K so she could get state help, not to mention her parents are paying all her bills while she sits at home on her butt. My SO lost his job a week before Christmas so I am paying his child support on top of all the other bills. Her support is paid no matter what one of us need at the time, yet I am always the bad guy.. I also have two boys and unlike my SO's BM I do not push and push and push to get more and more money from my ex. This week she has thrown me under the bus over and over about how my SO is raising my kids and does nothing for their daughter. My SO is getting my kids off the bus, doing homework, and the whole nightly routine while I WORK to pay all our bills!!! He helped pay bills when he was working, but I do not ask him for help with anything my kids need. I do that on my own and with what little support I get from my ex. I am beyond over dealing with all the crap and just putting a smile on my face and acting like it is okay, cause it is not! Idk if I am acting like a big ass baby over this all, but I am over busting my butt in school and at work to provide my children a better life, while some pissed off BM talks crap about me. I have done nothing but give and give and treat SD as my own and don't deserve to be treated like shit.
ugh... just feels so much better writing it and getting it off my chest since I cannot vent to SO without him asking me to just play nice and not open my mouth and tell his BM what's up.