Yes & no. I hate that they "don't have a dad". But the person he is now is in no way safe or healthy for them to be around. I wish he could be a decent human being and a good dad. But I guess if he was, I wouldn't have left in the first place.
I wont be able to answer that yet. My daughter will have to when she gets older. She's 18 and still not old enough to see if not having him around much has hurt. Or did it end up helping by keeping our lives relatively quiet and stress free? How does one answer that until the kids are adults and can maturely tell you how it made them feel?
I would have liked for him to have been the parent that DD deserved...but he opted out and I feel like that was in her best interest (whether that was what he was thinking at the time or not). Kids don't deserve to deal with parents who don't want to be parents.
I love that BF is pretty active in DS's life. Would I like him to be more active. I would hate for my son not to have his BF in his life.
Yes, we wish BM wasn't mia for the kids' sake. They are doing just fine and have a good healthy mindset about it ATM, but I still hurt for them.
I want him to pick a side and stay there. Be involved or be gone. This in and out crap is crap.
My daughter's mentally delayed/autistic-she couldn't tell who that man is.....the only dad she knows is DH. If he couldn't bother being in her life for the last 10yrs....he can stay gone.
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