I have to give a little background info. Some of you probably remember my past posts, but I have known step son since he was 3 and he's now 10. I used to be very involved in his life. bm and I were just too comfortable with each other, which lead to multiple fights. I am now not allowed to talk to her, which is a God send to me! It's been made very clear that I shouldn't be involved in his life. So, lately I have just had this "I don't care anymore" attitude.
I am taking MY kids to disneyland, with my money in the Fall. My Dh asked if we are going to wait until November to go, so that ss can go with us. He plays football from August-Oct. and seriously, the world will stop spinning if he misses a game. His team loses regardless, and he's only 10, but apparently it's a REALLY big deal if he misses a game. (that was one of our big fights last year) Here's the problem. My youngest turns 3 Oct 25th and we will have to pay for him if we go when he's 3, and I have always wanted to go at Halloween time. We can't go before because I need my bonus from work to pay for it. I feel like it's a trip I am planning, it's a trip I am paying for, so I should not have to re arrange my plans so a kid that's not even mine can go. Step son, will be invited and if he chooses to miss football and come, he's more than welcome, but I won't plan it for November. Is this really harsh of me?