I have an sd8 and ss11. I'm their primary care giver as well. Their bm calls on the average of once a year. Both kids are having some behavioral issues, so DH, the kids and I have established a more extensive list of rules, and rewards. DH works more than 12 hours a day, and the only advice people seem to give is that it is DHs fault that he isn't home more. If DH doesn't work, bills don't get paid, the SKs don't get the things they need and it would make things worse all around. SKs receive no support financial or otherwise from bm. I find myself getting offended when people lay blame on him when he's doing what he has to to support them. He's home every weekend, and spends the entire weekend with them... that's when I run my errands and visit my friends. Am I just being too sensitive? I'd like to get advice, but blaming anyone doesn't really help.
DS23 DD21 SS10 SD8