Why does everyone think they get to decide what their going to to in regards to the birth of MY child?
I am scheduled to be induced Tuesday evening via Cervadi. From what I've read here and on online, it seems like a 12 hour process in which they will insert it when i arrive and in the morning see my progress and either start me on pitocin or go from there with whatever other method. The hospital is going to call me tomorrow with my exact time to be there and once they do, I planned to text my family and ask that they not come to hospital as I most likely will not be having a baby Tuesday night. Besides that, the hospital told us during the tour that if someone should have their baby after visiting hours, those in the waiting room will be notified of the birth but thats it...they will not be able to actually see the baby as it will be after hours. My hospital also has the "golden hour" which is immediately following delivery and its for Mom, Dad, and baby to bond...all other support people are asked to leave the room during this time. Since cervidil is a slow process....I dont think it makes much sense for a bunch of people to come wait in the waiting room when a) i most likely wont be in active labor on tuesday b) ill be sleeping while they're waiting and c) if i do have him that night it will most likely be after hours and they wont be seeing him anyway. So rather then waiting in an uncomfortable waiting room everyon can wait at home and be updated when he's born.
I also expressed that i dont mind if people take pictures of him but that I dont want anyone posting any on social media until I get to do it first. I think its only right that I be the one to introduce MY kid to the world before anyone else. I also really dont want my mom or my SO watching him "come out"...i've said this several times and they both keep brushing it off. Its something i feel pretty strongly about and while I wont keep my SO from the delivery room, i will keep my mom out if she cant honor my requests.
So i was talking to my Mom about this...and she goes on to tell me that I am "taking the fun and excitement out of it for everyone" and that I am being harsh and have too many rules and Im a dictator. And that EVERYONE (she wouldnt name names) has been talking about how im going to be a nightmare. I dont think Im being harsh...im being upfront about what I want. Everyone else has had their kids and gotten to do it the way that they want....i want things to go a certain way and its some kind of crime?! i dont get it. Not to mention, the last time i checked this really isnt about everyone else. I want visitors of course, but i feel like if my wishes cant be respected than I will tell the nurses that i dont want visitors at all and everyone can wait until i get home to come see him.
Am I being unreasonable? or a dictator? or out of line for wanting this to go a certain way? I mean I already dont get to go into labor on my own, which is something i really wanted to experience...why is it such a problem that i want this to go a certain way as much as the situation allows?
Sorry its long. END RANT lol