Here's the thing... And before anyone says it THIS IS NOT A BM BADHING POST... Just simply need advice on what DH and I can do differently on our end of things. I understand completely her house her way, our house our way.
BM has rules at her house but they are rarely enforced, even her mother has said to us that they act like animals with her. Again not bashing, just giving some background. It seems every weekend that DH has them the kids are very badly behaved Sunday. Even Wednesday when they get back they don't behave badly. Is this just them anxious to get back to their moms or just acting out? Any advice?
So finally after getting BM, DH, SF and I to all sit down and talk we discussed this issue too. They see the same exact thing when it's time for the kids to come back to us. And the kids actually say to BM and SF "it doesn't matter if you yell at me I'm going to my dad's tomorrow so I won't be in trouble". So now we all agreed to try out the punishing at both houses thing. It was the simplest of answers and makes the most sense. Crossing my fingers that this works!