Ok SO and I are working out some issues, witch some I thought were previously worked out , anyways. SO has done some things this past spring in regards to BM that I thought were inappropriate(not infidelity) Just somethings he claims , "I have always done" its a bunch of little silly things in reality, It was just a build up for me. I questioned something recently and he gave me the same line but added "you know I am so used to doing it I don't really always think before I give an answer" Ya think !!! Anyways I was feeling rather bitchy and told him two plus years ago you divorced , but you did'nt think change the way you deal with her? He then got defensive (witch I understand) and told me he found it offensive that I still had XH last name, and even SM did like it (I didn'tknow I was supposed to care about SM?) I know he was just blowing steam at me, he isnt happy with some of the decisions he has made because they have set the presidence for BM to continue to ask and ask and now he is getting grief from her about saying no.
I have 2 children with XH, I have had this name for over 10 years, I am known professionally by it plus when I married him he gave it to me and it is now my last name. I can keep it if I want to.
Am I wrong? is it some kind of attachment to XH to keep the same last name? Thoughts?