I know that BM has no obligation when it comes to my house, but that doesn't stop me from wishing that she acted a bit more consideration. For those of you that read my last post where I mentioned being sick with the flu, it actually wasn't the flu, it was a pneumonia that landed me in the hospital for 4 days on oxygen. So basically, I'm really susceptible to illness, almost any little thing has the possibility of turning into another pneumonia. This is relevant because the stepsons went to their mothers house this weekend and it turns out they have sickness going through the home. I know that she wants her time with the boys, I don't fault her for that, but it would have been great if she had given my husband a heads up because he told her at the last visit about what was going on with me and how serious it was. If she didn't know, then this whole subject would be irrelevant because she would have no idea that a little sickness being sent to our home could be a really serious thing and how could I be even a little upset. This post really is just a vent, I know that there's nothing I can do to fix it, and I know that BM isn't a considerate person when it comes to us, but it frustrates me that she tries to act like she is,
I.E: She called my husband yesterday to tell him about the boys' sickness. Saying that she knows that I'm getting over my sickness and is there anything he wants her to do.
It bothers me because the obvious way to have handled this, if she really cared about how the illness would affect me or our home, she would have told DH about it before the start of the visit. I can cope with her just not telling DH about it until we're at her house picking them up at the end of the visit, I wouldn't like it, but that is a cut and dry irritant, but I really can't stand that she pretends to care by "letting us know" and asking about a solution when it's clear what a truly considerate person would have done.
Again, this is a vent, I'm fully aware that this is my reality with this woman. I'm a bit sensitive because I'm having a bit of anxiety about getting sick because I really don't want to end up in the hospital again, and that's a real possibility. I'm even nervous about going to my 3 year olds preschool because of all the potential sickness, lol. Anyways, that's all I have to say, glad to have it out of my head.