I am really proud of DH. Holy hell, he stood up to BM!
In case you missed it, the latest is that BM sprung it on us that SD14 was getting braces this week and wanted us to pay 1500 up front with less than a week's notice. (ortho had been saying that he didn't think she needed them all along, but that has changed)
There was some drama (though I was happily insulated from it) but ultimately, SD got her braces and we are only paying the CO'd portion which we've now paid up front and BM has a payment plan that is in her name only.
I am SO proud of DH for standing up to her on this. I know it's been a week of email battles but this is the very first time BM has been told that she is going to have to support her children as well. She's all "I'm going to have to refinance my car, I can't afford this, you have to pay for it, yada yada" and then "If you're not going to pay for it, we'll just cancel the appointment!" but DH stood his ground.
We pay a hefty bit of CS and have paid for everything medical in the past so this is HUGE. Turns out, even in a 50/50, DH pays CS and we also have 80/20 responsibility for the medical/dental. So BM only has to come up with 480 over 10 mos. We paid 500 today and have to come with the additional 1420 which I hope to pay tomorrow. But then we're done.
Note: Total crickets when DH mentioned to her that we paid 100% for SD16's braces. I know we'll never see that money, but at least she is being asked/told to come up with her portion THIS time.
This is the very first time DH has EVER told BM she was going to have to pay for something herself. I am SO PROUD OF HIM!!!