Okay so I've been in my little stepdaughter's life since she was a baby. She is almost 5 now and she calls me her stepmom regularly. She actually prefers me to her dad most of the time lol Like when it comes time for baths and showers she would rather have me help her instead of him (she stays with us two nights a week). The other day the three of us went on a mini vacation where we went to a nice hotel for a night that had a pool. We all went swimming and just to save some time afterwards I suggested that I just get in the shower with her WITH MY SWIMSUIT STILL ON.... But this time my fiance suggested I just take my suit off with her. I refused. SHE even told me it was okay, but I just felt like I would've been stepping over a line with her mom if I'd done that. I don't think I would be very comfortable with my ex's girlfriend stripping down around my 5 year old daughter, so I respect her mom enough not to do something like that. BM and I are actually decent friends. I just wanted to know what any other stepmom would have done in a situation like that and was I being really uptight or just doing the right thing? I know this might seem like a weird post but my fiance and I have gotten into it over stuff like this all the time... I don't let her in the bathroom with me when I'm showering, don't let her see me changing clothes or doing anything personal that would expose myself like that. If I'm in the wrong I just want to hear it (I still wouldn't change but still would be okay hearing other opinions on this topic). It would also be nice to get some backup on this so I can tell my fiance that I'm not crazy for thinking it is disrespectful/inappropriate to undress in front of my stepdaughter!
on Mar. 6, 2014 at 12:10 AM