I have been reading a lot of posts and responses and I am wondering who else out there actually has a great relationship with their kid's BM?
My kids' BM and I are great coparents as well as actual friends. We are planning a girl scout camping trip, cheer on the kids together from the sidelines at sporting events, attend class parties, discipline, parent, ask each other for advice, get frustrated with each other and get over it and just love our kids. She appreciates how much I love "her" kids and I appreciate her willingness to let me be an active part of their lives. We both live by the mantra that no child can ever have too many people to love them...
My SK's will have a lot of great memories because we get along. They will have pictures of both their dad and SD helping at baseball practice, their mom and SM in their matching games hats (that BM made for us), my SD will have the memory of camping with Mom & SM together and so on. Am I just out here alone with this relationship? I hope there are others who experience this type of interaction.
(Please don't think everything has always been perfect, it hasn't. There were a couple years at the beginning where we did not really speak beyond a very formal hello, then about a year of getting to know each other and realizing neither of us where out to get the other, no harm was going to befall us by being friends and then we actually just both went through pregnancy at the same time. Her youngest is just a few weeks older than my son. I relied on her pregnancy expertise heavily since it was all new to me. I think sometimes just realizing that we both have things to bring to the table and valuing the opinions and interest of the other are the small steps it takes to really get a relationship moving in the right direction.)